My life is a comic book....

I haven't posted here in ages, but I'd thought I'd give a update on where I am so everyone can laugh at my comical life.

So I got into a relationship, I've learned a shit load since then about myself and people. I've learned to not take shit from people anymore and stand up for myself. I'm learning that I'm an amazing person. My inner game is becoming rock solid (still taking time but almost there).

The other day I opened and started running game on a girl in a wheelchair drunk in Walmart at 1 in the morning (Sorry doc for the phone call, it was worth the laugh). So following night I opened and game my girlfriend's best friend without realizing it. WHOOPS! My stories are becoming the stuff of legends, I should write an e-book on crazy stories from puas. High quality entertainment at it's finest.

To laugh at my misfortune is priceless. For everything else, there's masturbation... wait what?

Hopefully my whirlwind of a life will slow down and I can start posting again and my field reports... there are people whom write about doing stuff and then there's people who go out and do. I've never been one for words, see you in the field :)

“Fashion is what you adopt when you don't know who you are.”

It is a plague that invades the souls of every man and eats at the very core of our existence. The achilles heal of men? Bad fashion. Not necessarily bad fashion all together but trends and trying to be cool by fitting in. You're shooting yourself in the foot. While Aberclonebie and Lollister work and it doesn't phase most girls, why be congruent with everyone else and not really yourself?
You don't wanna look like every other guy in the crowd, do you? The very essence of fashion is to develop an avatar that is true to yourself. This will not only portray your personality and be geared towards the type of girls you want, but also you will be more comfortable and stand out as the individual you really are, Or hope to be. So where do we go from here? Wear outlandish shit that catches attention like platform boots with fish in them? Dress in suits or like a 70's porn star? Not exactly. It's a little more complex and sane than that... unless tuxedo shirts are your thing in which case you need more help than I can give.

Creating your avatar

An avatar is actually one of the simplest things to create. People struggle with this aspect because their whole life they've been put into cookie cutter molds. How many times have you seen the kid at the mall dressed like a emo kid with a tie on his leg with 3 hot girls hanging all over him that aren't his type at all? I'm willing to guess at least once and you said to yourself "Really, him? He's not even their type." Is he a pick up artist? Chances are no, he's just different. He doesn't fit the typical high school jock look and isn't afraid to express himself. Your avatar should reflect whom you are. Don't be afraid to let loose and take chances. Some simple ways to start developing your own look to fit your personality:

What kind of music are you into?
What are your interests?
What type of girls would YOU like to attract?
What is your TRUE personality that you would like people to know?
What kind of guys do girls you want like? What is their style?

This is just a basic guideline. Chances are a girl that is into rock music and painting isn't gonna go for a guy in a polo shirt and docker dress pants. Sure it could happen if you have super tight game, but that doesn't convey the person you are, does it? This is where you get ideas from outside sources, make small changes if you want. But always...

PUSH YOUR COMFORT BOUNDARIES

Go to a store and just start trying everything on. Do this one day a week goto the mall and try on things you wouldn't normally wear or different combinations. Don't worry about sarging, make this an off day when you have nothing planned or some night after you've already made your rounds. It only takes an hour or two and you'll start to know the stores you want to hit every time. You might think you'll look stupid in a blazer or suit at a club when everyone is wearing a button up shirt, you might even get made fun of your dress boots, but when you're dressed to the nines you'll feel good about yourself. Every guy that makes fun of you they're jealous they just don't know it. Girls notice a nice dressed guy with a congruent outfit that stands out. And any attention is good attention. I can't tell you how many guys have made fun of my boots and hours later asked where I've gotten them.

"We cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are."
-- Max DuPree

Be creative, have fun, just don't look like a complete asshat. Do what works and experiment a little. Small changes help you find what works for you and in the long run, wear it with confidence. No amount of expensive clothing or cool looking t-shirts will make a shit of difference if the look isn't congruent with your personality and you feel comfortable in them. It's easier than you think.

Until next time RAWKSTAHZ, keep the pimp hand strong.

“It's funny how you never think about the women you've had. It's always the ones who get away that you can't forget.”

It is the bane of existence for our entire species. We spend hours upon hours wondering the what if's and what could have been's. In a world where you go past a school bus stop and everyone is on their cellphones text messaging and where baby sitters are computers, televisions, and video games. We battle every day with social interactivity, and the hardest part?

Approach Anxiety

That's right kids, the big AA, and I don't mean Alcoholics Anonymous (Although some of us in the community could use it by now.) There are multiple facets of this AA. First being the initial fear of approaching a total stranger and striking up a conversation. This is the one everyone talks about and always says just do it. Second being the actual one that a lot of us get but is never talked about. The one where you get IOI's and freeze yourself out because you start running through your head.

"What am I going to say?"
"Am I going to run out of material?"
"What if I say something stupid and ruin it all?"
"What if her linebacker boyfriend is buying protein and weights 2 aisles over and just got discharged from the marines for anger issues?"

Who gives a shit?

Relax....

Take a deep breath. We were born to be social beings. With the advances in modern technology we have lost that touch. What are we in fear of? Are we really in fear of failure? Or is it the possibility of success? People are not unique and beautiful snowflakes that if you strike up a conversation will say "Oh god you're not attractive get away!" This holds true for everyone including the homeless man collecting change, the guy selling you gum that just graduated high school, or the HB10 that you see walking her little pet poodle.

You'd be surprised how far you could get by just TALKING to people.

Is it really some mythical beast of evolution? Or is it the pressure of fitting in with modern society? I believe it's neither and just our own insecurities playing games. We are all our own worst critics! Have some fucking confidence, you really are an interesting person and have a lot to offer.

“To wish you were someone else
is to waste the person you are.”

So how do we over come AA? Go out there and just talk to people. Anyone. Get social. Stop worrying about running routines or trying to pick up girls. Just be fucking social and in time you'll get over your fear of talking to anyone in general be it a grenade, crack head, stripper, or the guy who sells dancing monkey dolls in the subway system. What is the difference between a super hot chick and a fat ugly hobo? Absolutely nothing. Beauty is only skin deep, we're all human. What is the worst that can happen? She won't fuck you? Big deal. You've just made a new friend, and the point of all this is the hang out with girls, isn't it?

We're all in this together, we've all struggled and continue to struggle in aspects of our game. Every journey is begun with a single step, so why not take a flying fucking leap? So for homework I want you to go out and strike up random conversation with people you don't know. I don't care if it's a hired gun or some super hot blond that's buying a mocha latte cappuccino. Good luck! And always remember to smile, the world isn't out to get you!

It's all about having fun!